i had an interesting convo with bluepuff.

soki: should ppl enter a relationship saying they like each other. or they love each other?

bluepuff: initially its the crush and infatuation feeling and usually ppl will go into a relationship at this period, so this is "like". unless there is this couple who can control their emotions so well until they develop love for each other alr, but they still not tog yet, then they have the chance to go into a r/s loving each other right ffrom the start. reasonable?

soki: VERY. bingo. and the latter is what i want.

bluepuff: wellll. then i can tell you the latter will be rarer than the former.

soki: my tian.

bluepuff: both also can go wrong bec - if u get into r/s at a "like" stage, then u might not love each other in the end. if u wait until there's love, the other party might not be patient enough. and if u keep insisting that u wan to feel that kinda love b4 getting into r/s.. ur mentality will affect how u feel towards that person also. so the best is juz let things happen lor. if it must happen, it will happen.

soki: fate!

i was so inspired i decided to quote her.